A Letter for the Single

Single doesn’t mean less-than. Single is whole.

You are everything, now, in this moment: fully formed, a force to be reckoned with, all you need to be – and will ever need to be – in one perfect soul. One is a round number, remember.

Also remember that you are enough.

You are complete.

You are loved.

They’re on their way. Your person. It might not be today, though – in fact, it’s probably not today or even tomorrow – and that’s exactly how life should be. You’re not with the person of your life because YOU are the person of your life. They are extra. It will happen when it happens. But it will definitely happen.

Don’t sit and wait. Don’t simply pass the time until they arrive. You are worth a thousand more dreams than that. Continue, with full speed ahead, to be wonderful, to be you, to live life,

because your one? They need you to have stories. To be in full colour, already, without them, so that they can spot you in the otherwise black and white crowd.

You’ll need days, weeks, years, a lifetime, to fill each other in on details you have missed. And still it won’t be enough. Store up your stories for late-night pillow talk and early morning murmurs. Know that you’ll understand their life  so much more.

Appreciate your solo status. What you learn now will make you even better for them. Weathering a storm of uncertainty will make you a stronger anchor for when they lose their job, and need you to be the strong one for a while. If you pay attention to the beauty of the journey – to work, through life – you’ll never be short on ways to brighten their day. Master your favorite meals to one day share, take the trips so you know where the best spots are, look after the relationships that you do have.

Be the one you want to find, so that when the right mix of luck and serendipity explodes into a romance that you did not dare hope would look like this, they can marvel at your braveness. Revel in your adventure. Laugh at your worry that you thought this might not ever happen to you.

Don’t dare think that this is not going to happen to you. Don’t build that kind of energy around yourself, because then your person might miss you. Even the right people can fail to see through the clouds of ‘I’m not even looking for Love, anyway.”.

Yes you are.

Own it.

Own the fact that you are so in love with your life that the only thing better than having these experiences alone would be to have these experiences to share to somebody who matter.

Like attracts like: when you say you’re happier to be single, the universe will take your word. Make sure the universe knows that you’re doing your best to become the better person you need to be. For them. For yourself.

And then, one day, at a grocery store or at a friend’s birthday, at a work event or at a wedding, you’ll know. They will say hello, and it won’t feel like the first time. It will be that kind of hello that means “I’ve missed you and I don’t even know you yet.”

And slowly, you will unfold for them, and you’ll see all the parts of them, and you’ll say a prayer to the universe for ever blessing you with this much good fortune.

Your one will embrace you and thank you. They’ll thank you for holding on in there, for waiting, for not settling for something less-than when they were right around the corner, prepared to be your more-than. They’ll say thank you for trusting that it was they who would come. And every last moment of doubt will disappear like a cloudless vapor.




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